Growing up in the rough part of north Philadelphia, I’ve seen things a kid shouldn’t see.
As such, my mindset, oftentimes is stern and no-nonsense. This approach has helped me overcome odds to become a productive member of society.
While in my late 30’s, I continued to use this approach when interacting with friends. With some, it worked. Others, not.
I really didn’t understand the potential negative consequences this approach could have on some, especially close friends.
One friend in particular, was very close to me. Over time, this friend became timid and afraid of being around me. It got so bad that he ran at the sight of hearing my voice!
Deep down, I knew why he was afraid. It was practically impossible to reverse course. The die was set!
The friend I’m talking about was my miniature schnauzer dog! Due to this relationship, I vowed to never be so rigid that it scares kids away (especially my own)! Because of my dog, I became a better, kinder and more flexible person.
My dog was the unlikely teacher!
When interacting with our kids, it’s critically important to view things from their vantage point, take a softer approach, then proceed. That way, your relationship with your kid will be rock solid!