Growing up, I hated to lose in anything, at anytime! As a wrestler, and now as a jiu-jitsu practitioner, I didn’t even want to lose in practice. I was unwilling to try new techniques. I’d execute known techniques, which allowed me to maximize my chances of winning.

As a result, my growth was stunted. Against “outside” competition, when I needed more techniques, I didn’t have them. Guess what happened? I wasn’t able to competently compete!

LESSON LEARNED: Losing isn’t bad all the time. Just as failures are inevitable prior to successes, losing is inevitable prior to winning. My dear friend, Mazi Heydary, said it best, “Be willing to accept short term loses, for long term gains!”

About the author 

Coach Berry

John Berry (a.k.a. Coach Berry) has been a basketball coach and skill development trainer since 1993 and has coached hundreds of games and instructed 1,000’s of kids. Coach Berry is, and always has been committed to helping youth in life and on the basketball court.